I’m writing this just after the New Year… A time where everyone sets great intentions that unfortunately can get buried after a couple weeks or months. As a WAHpreneur – a work-at-home mom with WAHHHHing littles at my side, my intentions have to be a day-in day-out routine in order to prevent overwhelm (and manage it, too, if I’ve surpassed the prevention stage!). Today I wanted to share a bit about my process for this month’s post. I am not an easily stressed out person and I think that my process helps contribute to this.
1. I know my schedule. This sounds so basic but knowing your schedule is crucial to knowing how much time you have for business life, mom life activities, and personal care. If you don’t use any type of paper or electronic planner, now is a great time to get that set up. I’m a paper planner for life type of girl, so my calendar is critical for me.
2. Going along with number one, I know how much time each segment of my life takes – this is key. You can’t plan more hours than there are in the day. And always schedule MORE time than you think something will actually take.
3. I’ve determine my non-negotiables. Your non-negotiables may change with different phases of your life and that is totally okay! Right now mine are:
- Minimum of 20 minutes of me time a day – this is often a home workout or self care at night
- Tuesday and Thursday nights at the gym – these are my bonus days to get away for a longer period of time. I will sometimes combine this with a personal errand
- Thursday night is also the night I usually watch Modern Family with hubby on Hulu
Of course there are tons of other non-negotiables in life that I don’t count toward this point… like getting kids to places at certain times and certain days… that is part of knowing your schedule and how your flow of the day will work. But the types of non-negotiables that I DID list are CRUCIAL to my prevention of overwhelm and also my MANAGEMENT of overwhelm if I haven’t prevented myself properly (aka by not meeting a non-negotiable!)
So these non-negotiables are supposed to be items in your life that help you reduce stress, make you happy, give you a break!! Working out, self care, dinner with the girls, movie and cuddles with spouse, etc., are all AWESOME ideas but they have to be planned EACH week to create a difference in your overall mood and well-being.
Plus, you have to know yourself. I can’t do the wake up at 5 a.m. to workout and journal… but plenty of other people can and that sets their day up perfectly. I thrive in the night. Maybe that’ll change as kids sleep better, making mommy sleep better; but for now these tips work great!
4. I know my outlets. Who do you text when you’re overwhelmed in the heat of the moment from mom life? What FB group can you turn to when your person isn’t answering your text? What if you have a business snafu and need a sounding board? Do you have a mentor or group that you can post a quick question in? These types of outlets and systems help end any sort of frustrations for me quickly, because I feel heard and validated in a matter of minutes or hours.
I would love to know how YOU personally prevent and manage overwhelm or what areas you think are hardest for you! Comment or email me anytime: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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