There’s been a trend on social media talking about how we need to make time for self-care and self-love. A trend that really shouldn’t need to be a trend. Because why aren’t we making the time for our self and why do we need to remember to love our self?
All over the internet we are seeing friends and family be busy. Going on adventures. Doing things you’d never think of being able to do. Living their best life. Living their highlight reel. Social media allows us to show all the good and ignore the hard.
But everyone has hard, even if you or they aren’t choosing to share the hard with the world. (That’s okay, by the way!) For instance, I don’t tend to post my hard. I’m naturally a positive person and try to vent once about whatever is bothering me and then move on; I’m good at compartmentalizing. However, compartmentalizing can be hard. One thing that can help move past hardships in one’s life is continued self-care and self-love. A routine of helping yourself helps the stresses leave your life and body easier and quicker.
The biggest way I practice self-care is my “20 me minutes” a day. Most days it’s an active 20 me minutes. Sometimes those 20 minutes turn into 40 minutes…. sometimes those 20 minutes are sitting by myself in solitude, getting away from the noise of the house (and kiddos). But these minutes are so important. They provide clarity to my thoughts. They often provide stress relief and happy endorphins from being active. They give me a sense of me without putting on any additional “hat” in those moments.
Your me minutes can look different than mine.
Think about what would help you most and what could become a routine easily in your lifestyle. Here are some other ideas to consider:
- A long bath with music or candles or a good book
- A face mask and doing your nails
- Set a timer to go upstairs at the same time each night
- Enjoy electronic-free reflection
- Read a book
- Start a gratitude journal
- A daily walk
- Daily vitamin D time – reflection on your porch/deck
- Mediation or prayer time
Many of these suggestions fit both into self-care and self-love but I also wanted to share with you one of my main methods of practicing self-love for myself. It’s talking to myself. It’s uplifting myself with positive thoughts toward myself. What our internal dialog “says” is what we end up believing to be true. So talk to yourself nicely. Love yourself. Build yourself instead of tear yourself down. Sometimes this can take time to alter the thoughts in your head. If I’m having a particularly difficult time of struggling with my self thoughts, I totally think visual reminders/quotes help. Pull out your favorite set of sticky notes and get writing. Post those notes all over your house and any time you pass one, you’ll be loving yourself with a kind thought.
So take time for yourself. Love yourself. It can be easy to forget as a busy WAHpreneur but it’ll be so worth it.